I (30,Cis F) just want to take a second and do an appreciation post for my (32,ftm) boyfriend and encouragement post for everyone out there; Whether you’re single, lonely, in a terrible relationship, etc. I want you to know, it does get better. It may take a long fucking time and you may go through some really rough shit but I thoroughly believe that everything happens for a reason. Things just take time. There is always something you can take from any situation, and grow and learn from it.
For roughly the last 4 years, I was single. Things ended with an ex fiancé, and I was left feeling the absolutely worst about myself; more than I ever have before. He had cheated on me, and didn’t treat me right and it left me feeling worthless, obsolete, unloved, unwanted, and ugly. I had lost myself. I spent the next 4 years working on myself and putting the pieces back together. Learned not to take shit from anyone, create and stand by my boundaries. I learned my worth and set high expectations for those who wanted to be in my life. Essentially building myself back up again. I made it to the point where I was very content and happy with my life. Didn’t feel lonely whatsoever, and in fact enjoyed being single, it was just me and my son living our best. Don’t get me wrong, I still had wounds and trauma I was/am working through. My life hasn’t been easy whatsoever. I’ve had a rough ass childhood and I wasn’t about to let this past relationship stop me from living a life full of joy and being my awesome self.
Then, I met him (32, ftm). Timing is EVERYTHING, and he was/is the right person at the right time. He is everything I never knew I wanted and needed. It’s like he’s healing all the broken parts of me. He’s healing parts of me that I didn’t even know needed to be mended. We have both been through so much and from the very beginning we have been incredibly open and honest with each other. He’s intelligent, funny, thoughtful, intuitive, creative, and so fucking handsome. Plus, the sex is amazing, mind blown 🤯 100/10. He inspires and motivates me every day to be a better person. Not only that, he’s been so incredibly, amazing with my child. It comes so natural to him and I never expected anyone to step in like they did. I’ve been a single mom, doing it myself for the past 6.5 years. I didn’t need that, I just wanted a good role model for my child. He’s far exceeded any and all of those expectations I had.
I also learned about all of the awful past relationships he has endured. I was appalled at the things he described. He thought he had to accept less than he deserved, less than what he wanted/needed. Im here to show him that you never have to lower your bar. I know people accept the love they think they deserve, but I’m here to show him that he deserves the world. I will spend every day for the rest of my life showing him how much I love him and appreciate him. From the day I met him, I could feel it in my soul that he was my forever. My soulmate. I didn’t believe in soulmates before him. We are building such a strong foundation that will last a lifetime. I didn’t think it was possible to feel the way that I do; true, utter happiness. There isn’t a second that goes by that I don’t think about him. My life was great before, but it is without a doubt, better with him in it. He’s perfect, for me. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner in crime.
TLDR: Appreciation post for my (30, cis f) boyfriend (32, ftm). Went through a terrible break up, single for 4 years and met him. He’s amazing and I want everyone to know things can and do get better.
Submitted October 08, 2020 at 08:25PM by Bazinga1220 https://ift.tt/2FbY5Hc
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