Comphet influencing sexuality: pan or bi?

Hi Reddit....it's a questioning gay again😔I'm almost embarrassed to be back here with a torrent of labels cuz I've been here countless times, the first cautiously tipping my toe in the water but I'll just get straight to the point. (Tldr at the bottom)

I'm secure in my gender identity (nonbinary, specifically agender, and I use they/them pronouns), but I have absolutely no idea about my sexuality. I assumed I was cishet for most of my life of course, and then dabbled around with the bi label before sticking with and being mostly comfortable with being pan. My reasoning was that I date for personalities, connections, how we vibe, if I hypothetically interact with an enby, a girl, and a guy anonymously and I like each of their personalities the same then I don't think I'd have a preference towards any of them based off of their gender. And I'd need to be close to them and trust them in order to have anything sexual so I was comfortable with pan for a bit.

Recently I read the comphet masterdoc and at least half of it rang true for me, I've since realized I do sometimes experience geniune attraction and enjoy men but a lottt of times I experience comphet in everyday life. I feel that I find more women visually/sexually attractive. So my question, what is my sexuality? Is it bisexual/biromantic? Bisexual/panromantic? Aaahhhhh help a questioning gay pls :((

I know some responses are going to be "they're all just labels" but it's important to me just to figure myself out first, give myself and my feelings a slight definition or a sense of belonging, and then I tend to stray away from the significance of labels, it's how I felt with my gender identity once I was sure of it.

Tldr; I'm nonbinary and I thought I was pan but realized a lot of attraction that I experience towards men was comphet (although not all of it). I seem to find women/gnc/enbies visually attractive more often than men, I'm now questioning labels and trying some variations out. Bisexual/panromantic? Bisexual/biromantic? I know they're all just labels but I'd like to find one for now :) thanks

Submitted October 04, 2020 at 08:21PM by Do-I-exist- https://ift.tt/3jxEgZQ