Could somebody describe their experience regarding what “attraction despite gender” feels like?

I’m v sorry if this question was phrased ignorantly, that is just the definition of pansexuality that I’ve read online.

So, I (21f) currently identify as a lesbian. I appreciate an attractive man & diff male aesthetics but engaging with them sexually has never really interested me.

But lately I’ve had a lot more positive experiences with friendly and non-threatening guys. Generally just a deep conversation or otherwise innocuous activity (often while drunk, ngl) but bc the energy is so good and I feel so present/safe sometimes I just ... open up to the idea of connecting with the person in other ways. Not that I’m necessarily fantasizing about the details of the act, more like “you and I are vibing super well and I now would feel comfortable opening myself up in other ways.”

part of the reason I have reservations about sex with men is bc of the power dynamics and the way a lot of men view/talk about their sexual partners. I want to feel and be treated like an equal. So when I’m having a convo w a man and were just connecting, gender becomes more of an afterthought bc I’m trusting and responding to them as another person.

I hope that makes sense to read, and I’m really sorry if it doesn’t. I was hoping to hear some of you guys describe what attraction feels like to you/ how you knew you were pansexual v a different label.

Submitted October 04, 2020 at 10:49PM by StaleBlueBread https://ift.tt/2Gq63x5