Re coming out?

Hi hi :)

Fun fact: I thought I was a lesbian. Then I thought I was Bi and now I strongly identify as Pan.

I am a committed relationship of 5 years with a straight male and I do not like the whole "you're not pan (bi etc..)cuz you are with a straight person" deal. He has known me as bi for most of our relationship because I don't think I really came out as bi to him right away. Now I have to come out as pan. I know he's accepting and we kind of had a discussion about the possibility of me being "able" to be pan...lol I know but he's always been intimidated and also weary of my sexuality. He thinks he has the whole world to compete with. He doesn't get that it never mattered what was under his clothes or what gender he was and that I chose him for who he is and he happened to be a dude. He often says things like "you want all of those things and the other people and I'm not that" I try to hardest to love him and make him know that it's him and only him.

But...how do I re come out as pan? I'm afraid it will make him more weary.

Lemme know your thoughts. Thx for listening!

Submitted May 20, 2020 at 07:07PM by athendite12 https://ift.tt/3bNjpxa