I’m pansexual. It just feels right. I’m a cisgender male married to a cisgender female and I prefer my wife, which is obvious. But it gets more complicated and yet pretty simple from there.
Sexual attraction for me is complicated and hard to explain but when someone has the right stuff, I’m in. It’s like people first. And gendered identifiers can be mixed matched in a mr. potatohead sort of way if that makes sense. (Hopefully that doesn’t come off too crass)
But when I’m thinking on what I prefer (when searching for um...delicate content on the interwebs), I find myself searching for a fluctuating set of preferences.
In the past year, this has meant transwomen. I think this has a lot to do with how much enjoy the curvature of the “female” form (whatever that means) and the strikingly erotic sight of the “male” genital. But like I said, the delicate content I watch during my personal time alone changes from year to year, fluctuating in and out with no clear pattern, other than being influenced by my wife’s traits (because I love her and she is a big turn on.)
If I was single, which isn’t happening—I have been with my wife for 13 years—gender wouldn’t factor heavily into my decision in finding a new mate.
I see people first but I have fluctuating preferences. I wish I wasn’t pushed away by the lgbtq+ community for not fitting perfectly into a box or for not being bi, or for being something that they see as fake or invalid because I am a cis male with a cis female and thus I am straight apparently (yeah)
I just need to be heard and recognized. I love people for how they are and sex is merely icing on that cake, if they’re interested.
Anyway. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
Submitted August 22, 2020 at 03:13AM by pencil2paper https://ift.tt/3ghwh0B
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